fix(libxce): bug-1077 ctrlstatus crash from shared reply-union type confusion

ctx->reply.u is a single untagged union shared across opcodes (debugmsg /
get(dataset_t*) / jobid / clusterconf / ctrlstatus alias the same 8 bytes).
Commit 61e1391 added speculative free-guards
`if (ctx->reply.u.ctrlstatus) free_CtrlStatus_ptr(...)` (and the clusterconf
twin). A non-NULL slot does NOT imply a CtrlStatus*: a failover-aborted
reslist/joblist leaves ctx->reply.u.get == &getreply (a dead STACK pointer)
because xce_get_with_condition/xce_resval only cleared the slot on the success
path, not the xce_get_req<0 / cbuf_get<0 early returns. The next ctrlstatus
reply (worker thread) freed that foreign pointer as a CtrlStatus -> ASan
SEGV / stack-use-after-return in free_CtrlStatus (controller.capnp.c:11638).

Fix (root cause, both layers):
- Revert the unsafe free-guards in xce_handle_reply: MOVE_PTR overwrite only,
  never free/deref an untagged union slot by type.
- Clear ctx->reply.u.get = NULL on ALL exit paths of xce_get_with_condition
  and xce_resval via a single `goto done` cleanup (forget-proof; the bug was
  one forgotten failover path). Also drops the now-unused controller.capnp.h.
- Defense-in-depth: handle_get_reply drops a reply when the slot is NULL.

Regression: expose xce_handle_reply and add
test_handle_reply_ctrlstatus_does_not_free_foreign_slot, which poisons the
shared slot with a foreign heap value and proves the ctrlstatus reply handler
does not free it (RED reproduced the exact free_CtrlStatus_ptr double-free;
GREEN after fix). xcelib_test 244/0, controller_unit_test 166/0, all binaries
build clean.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01MSxwb2Xt5F84ATgiAZnH8V

src/include/xcectx.h

@@ -61,6 +61,12 @@ extern int  xce_ctx_reconnect(xce_ctx_t*, char*, int);
 extern void xce_block_tasks(xce_ctx_t*);
 extern void xce_unblock_tasks(xce_ctx_t*);
 
+/* Reply dispatch (normally driven by the vtask reply path). Exposed for the
+ * libxce test suite so the reply union's type-safety can be verified without a
+ * live endpoint (bug-1077: the shared, untagged reply union must never be
+ * dereferenced/freed as the wrong type). */
+extern int xce_handle_reply(xce_ctx_t*, xce_reply_t*);
+
 /*
  * xce_ctx_capture_redirect_hint: copy a redirect address carried on a reply
  * into the ctx's redirect_hint_host/port fields as a best-effort failover hint